The Disease to Please Harriet Braiker
Publisher: McGraw-Hill Companies, The

I understand that regardless of answer here or not, it won't change the outcome, it won't make the disease go away, and no amount of reassurance will make my worry stop. The twin of “the disease to please” is named Barack Obama. This condition is more popularly referred to as the “disease to please.” When Friendship Goes Awry. In the book she says that people pleasers are addicts. So if that's you, please don't waste your time on me. Trying to please people is a disease, or a sickness. Setting boundaries is about curing the disease to please. In a desire to be likeable and friendly, we can become overly concerned with the need to please others. For every disease there is its evil twin. It worked for me as I grew, but once I left the nest, it turned into the not so rewarding need to please. It's about standing up for yourself, letting people know your limits and teaching people how to treat you. Last week I wrote a post about the collective experience of menopause - the one outside our own sweaty bodies and muddled minds. There's a book called The Disease to Please by Harriet Braiker, PhD.